I’m never gonna wait that extra twenty minutes to text back, I’m never gonna play hard to get when I know your life has been hard enough already. When we all know everyone’s life has been hard enough. It’s hard to watch the game we make of love, like everyone’s playing chess with their scars, saying checkmate whenever they get out without a broken heart."
"When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits - anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving."
"Nunca se puede saber de antemano de qué son capaces las personas, hay que esperar, dar tiempo al tiempo, el tiempo es el que manda, el tiempo es quien está jugando al otro lado de la mesa y tiene en su mano todas las cartas de la baraja."
"The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything."